The Stages of Grief

By Jon Terrell, M.A.

“Grief is like a stranger who has come to stay.”

— Carol Staudacher, author of Beyond Grief

Understanding the Stages of Grief

In On Death and Dying (1969), Elisabeth Kübler-Ross introduced the concept of five stages of grief, originally describing the experiences of dying patients and their families.

Over time, her model has been applied more broadly — to anyone facing loss.

These stages are not a fixed sequence or a checklist. Grief is deeply personal. Still, the model offers a helpful map for understanding what you may be feeling as you move through loss.

Grief is a journey — not something to escape but to enter. In its depths lies what Kübler-Ross called “the Pearl of Great Price.”

The Five Stages of Grief

1. Denial: A natural defense against shock. We tell ourselves, “This can’t be happening.” Denial softens the initial blow and helps us function when reality feels unbearable.

2. Anger: Pain often turns outward. We may feel angry at others, at ourselves, or even at life or God. Though difficult, anger moves energy and begins to restore a sense of power.

3. Bargaining: We plead or make deals in hopes of reversing the loss — “If only…” or “Just give me more time.” Bargaining reflects our struggle to regain control.

4. Depression: As the truth sinks in, we turn inward. Sadness deepens. We may withdraw, cry, and reflect. This is not weakness — it’s the heart processing what the mind cannot.

5. Acceptance: Gradually, peace emerges. Acceptance doesn’t mean forgetting or being “over it.” It means finding a new way to live with what’s changed — and to love again.

Finding Support

Many people get stuck in one stage — unable to move forward, held by fear, anger, or numbness. Our Grief and Loss Retreats offer a safe space to release what’s held inside, reconnect with life, and rediscover peace.

For over 25 years, Jon Terrell, M.A. has led healing retreats in Massachusetts and Florida, helping people work through grief and difficult emotions with compassion and depth. Remote sessions are also available via Skype, FaceTime, or phone.

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